I have expressed the difficulties in being a empath. Know there is a beautiful balance within it also. We experience the good vibes surrounding us =. When in a room of joyous people we can be sent on a magic carpet of joy and elation. We empaths are filled with love and happiness. all around us. Sometimes coming across as high or drunk but on a natural high.
Visualize the light of a brilliant, beautiful sun deep in your heart, filling you with unconditional love. Working on addressing and honing my empathic ways these days. It is a time of healing and working on my relationship with my beautiful grown daughters. Hoping for their understanding about my short falls and stumblings of raising them when I was thought to be emotionally weak or disabled, before we knew what being an empath was. It is not an excuse, it is just who I am.
As an empath, especially with my children, the emotions can become murky and chaotic for I feel their pain even at a distance. Mothers intuition combined with being empathic can be overwhelming. So I keep learning all I can so I am better equipped to help them now where I failed in their growing years. The untold story..
You see them walk around wearing their soul on their sleeves; empaths are the smiling, ever glowing and compassionate souls. I believe everyone has equal of light and darkness within them, empaths are those who emphasize on the light within in them and also believe in spreading it. People take them as someone meant to dispel the darkness but what they don’t realize is anything that emits light burns within, be it the sun, a filament bulb or a candle. Emapths are no exception. They feel things; understand things which no one else can. Empaths have this unexplainable gift which comes with a high cost and many cons. The energy they are surrounded with talks to their soul, words is mere formality. By the time you finish formal introduction, his soul will have taken yours for a walk. This might sound baffling but an empath doesn’t need to spend days, months or years with you to know what you’re made of. Just a touch of your soul i.e. few minutes and he will have sensed the energy in you and in another minutes your souls would be playing together. Looks like a happy world, doesn’t it? But my dear, the world is fucked up place; there are also toxic people, the abusive scavengers who just want their selfish motives fulfilled. Any sane person in their right mind would avoid such people; at least after knowing them but our hero here, the empaths won’t do so. ‘No’ is way too rude for an empath to speak and is rarely constituted in their vocabulary. As a result the empath allows itself to be manipulated, used and abused but still believes they are doing it for a greater good and their utmost purpose i.e. illuminating. Mind you, here the empaths don’t just drive the darkness away but absorb it and confide it within them. An empath suffers in silence, no matter how much he is suffocating from the hands of darkness around his throat, still smiles and is always ready to extend his hands for help. It takes every bit of his strength to not give in to the darkness. He has his demons to fight, his flaws to correct and depression to deal with but my dear, you first. They always put others before them. It doesn’t require a personal tragedy for them to suffer. While a death of a child shown in news may make everyone sad for awhile but for empaths, it strikes hard, the impact is dense and deep. Even if they wanted to they couldn’t feel less intensely. There is a tsunami taking its toll inside them but even for a second they won’t lose their composure. There are rarely any occasions where they break down and lose control. If you think that’s messed up, there is still more to come. As empaths are sensitive to energy and vibration around them, company is not their cup of tea, or coffee, whatever you prefer. When they are around too many people the various type of energy confuses them and triggers a chaos within them. They seek solitude to let the tides settle and get their composure back. Though a lonely soul, an empath desires for a companion or at least be in a company with people who love them and accept them for who they actually are. An empath knows no boundary of love, it often makes people suspicious of how could someone possibly shower so much love in such short time of knowing each other. People cannot take love in high dose, it’s a tragic fact that empaths are often dumped saying ‘you’re too good for me.’ Well that makes no sense to me but if I have to deduce it then may be it’s a fear of not being able to reciprocate. Maybe. IDK. This desire to be loved and wanted often leads them to fall prey to the manipulators and thereafter be exploited and abused. They are literally blinded by love and generosity in their heart, so much that they are often willingly led into traps of narcissists. Those who pose to be exploited and victimized pull them in and our hero the savior walks in to take the pain way, in quest to drive out their darkness fall into their nasty games. Empaths are not made of stones and they do feel the pain. Even when they know there is danger ahead they cannot resist this urge to help. They find their escape in rescuing others. They have this feeling that by helping others, they are helping themselves. They cannot light other lives while keeping theirs dark forever. The refusal to address their own pain doesn’t serve them good in the long run. The struggle for empaths is harder as they don’t only deal with their pain but also those which absorbed from others. It’s not like they have no idea of the burdens they carry or the sufferings they are going through but they seek the remedy of their sufferings and pain that lives within them in illuminating someone else’s life. It’s for the empaths to feel any emotion more penetratingly than others. No wonder they have to deal with most heartaches and pain but they just don’t give in to the dark side. Such pain could be avoided by learning to cope with all the energies around, they need to distinguish between the emotions that belongs them and that ones that emanate from outside. The world needs more empaths but empaths don’t really need to pay this cost. Read more Let it go? How often we hear this. Just Let it go. We can not let it go until we know what we are letting go. We need to bring the issue festering deep inside to the surface first. It is bubbling and stirring and wanting you to pay attention. It wants to go it wants to be free also. But you must first bring it out either written or verbally for this helps to sort it out. Once you have all the components, the emotions and self criticisms and blame in the palm of your hand brought to clarity then you are able to raise them to the heavens letting them go to be transmuted for the highest good of all.
And so it is. For 40 years I looked for my Father. He died when I was 11. He was the only nurturing person in my life. I had to find out where he went. For several years I thought they may have put him in the secret wing of the hospital where JFK was supposedly kept after being shot. I figured my Dad was just as important as JFK, and they only told us they were dead.
I read every book I could find, I studied Life after Death at every turn. I searched and searched. One day, years later, I accepted the fact that he actually did die, but still, where did he go. In 2004 I took on a job as a gravedigger. One of the most honorable jobs I ever had, I loved it. We not only dug the graves we also maintained the serene grounds.. I did some of my deepest meditations there propped under a tree during lunch. I even learned how to dowse as we did not have records for the older section of the cemetery due to a flood. Very accurate by the way. Anyway, one night I had a dream. In the dream I was sitting in the sextons office at sunset. Looking out the window I saw all the people rise out of their graves and walking towards the office. I calmly opened the door and ask them "What are you all doing" Startled to see me they replied "Oh, we thought you left, we use the bathroom in the office at night." When I awoke I chuckled and exclaimed "It is time to start focusing on the living" And I am.. I am sharing this because I just released long held anger and pain towards several people and events. And it has made me all the happier. Effervescent even, kind of like alka seltzer.
Jack Kornfield "The practice of forgiveness grows through generosity and repetition. One of my teachers instructed me to practice five minutes of forgiveness for myself and others, twice a day for six months, which meant 360 times. Practicing with small misdeeds, such as my uncaring treatment of a friend, I repeatedly asked her forgiveness and gradually forgave myself. That experience encouraged me, but when I turned to my father, the process was much more difficult. Forgiveness took many years. It was only when he lay dying that I could look back and reflect on what had released me from our family suffering. When, at age 75, ten years after his first heart attack, my father was near death from congestive heart failure, frightened and in pain. I sat with him over long days and late nights. He kept asking me to stay. Because I had sat with my own pain and fear in meditation, I was not afraid. Because I had sat in the charnel grounds and with others as they died, I was able to offer the steady presence he needed. By now I also knew enough not to blurt out that I loved him, but I also knew that he could feel that I did. Years of meditation, therapy and forgiveness practices had come with me into that room. I’d worked with my rage at my father and my sorrow and frustration as a frightened, impotent child. One day I pictured the yellow linoleum floor in the backroom where my father was beating my mother. I wanted to beat him and to rescue her. I felt sorry for and angry at my mother for her weakness, and for her collusion with his brutal arrogance. I struggled to release my father and all his rigid, paranoid violence. I relived the nighttime scenes where his eyes would become glazed and crazed looking, and the old bastard would curse and hit and hurt us, his family." read more https://jackkornfield.com/the-practice-of-forgiveness-2/ "Healing mantras from the heart. Sensitive, subtle and unique mantras that help heal your body and soul, by creating sacred energy around you and let you rise and shine from the heart."
I encourage you to take a journey with this mantra. There are so many and it is important you find the tone that fits into your sacred energy. This one from Istvan Sky pulled me into an experience of love, tears and shivers of joy. Many are so use to being criticized every day that when they leave the confines of their cage they continue to take everything very personal. As they try to step up and speak up for them selves they sometimes falter in their approach. Those that patiently and lovingly stay with them through those times are absolute Angels.
Remember those that abandoned you during your healing are scared with serious issues of their own. Try to forgive them, and especially forgive yourself for the stumbling and the awkwardness in this new world of freedom. You are learning to walk again. You are raw, terrified and so very vulnerable, easily opening your self up to other narcissistic people. It takes time to realize you are able to safely express yourself. Exercising your muscles of self empowerment takes time. Breathe and keep on keeping on. One day, yes maybe several years later you will wake up and realize you are restored to wholeness again. oaoa https://soundstrue.leadpages.co/empaths-survival-guide/
I encourage you to download this free chapter from Judiths new book The Empath's Survival Guide ""WHAT IS AN EMPATH? Empaths have an extremely reactive neurological system. We don’t have the same filters that other people do to block out stimulation. As a consequence, we absorb into our own bodies both the positive and stressful energies around us. We are so sensitive that it’s like holding something in a hand that has fifty fingers instead of five. We are truly super responders. Research shows that high sensitivity affects approximately 20 percent of the population, though the degree of one’s sensitivity can vary.1 Empaths have often been labeled as “overly sensitive” and told to “get a thicker skin.” As children and adults, we are shamed for our sensitivities rather than supported. We may experience chronic exhaustion and want to retreat from the world because it often feels so overwhelming. But at this point in my life, I wouldn’t give up being an empath for anything." ~ Judith Orloff,MD As a Spiritual Alchemist I found Natalie perfectly described what is involved.
"A spiritual alchemist is a person who seeks spiritual direction, spiritual connection, and spiritual growth by embarking on a fearless, joyful, and lifelong path to self-knowledge. Many traditions teach that spiritual connection comes through transcending the self (through meditation, etc.). The underlying premise of spiritual alchemy, however, is that we connect with the divine—and learn to hear the voice of our soul (the part of us that is part of the divine)—through who we are today. Spiritual alchemists are essentially people who yearn to deepen their connection to the “above”—to the divine." http://thespiritualalchemist.com/about/ It is comforting in knowing that we empaths are recognized as more than the New Age trend some make it out to be.
By Judith Orloff, MD The trademark of an empath is that they feel and absorb other people's emotions and/or physical symptoms because of their high sensitivities. They filter the world through their intuition and have a difficult time intellectualizing their feelings. 10 Traits of an Empath
Interesting conundrum: We intentionally work to expose and heal those murky layers to allow more Light to radiate out. Thus sending out more Light, This opens us up to be more sensitive to a larger population and all their emotions. Yet as an empath this means we are also setting ourselves up For even more diverse energies to bombard us. Talk about brave ! Breathe knowing you are an amazing strong courageous person. For you face your own fears and then step out to face the fears of others. This takes absolute Faith to leap into your calling as medicine women and men. My cup runneth over ~ Diana Time to face the day ahead. Time to clear and align my energy field, connect with Source, ground and center as a means of staying above the bogs. Always starting with the breath. Remember whatever your definition of God, God is within, without, all around and in every living thing and creature.
May you be met with kindness in evrything you meet today. And if not? Be the kindness. Breathe in the Light, exhale the love. I have been using the term setbacks to refer to those times when releasing repressed emotions. Is it really a set back? Or is it a chance for moving forward with lesser baggage. We are taught to not show our emotional chaos for it implies weakness, even mental illness. Mental breakdowns,nervous breakdowns etc. Many years ago I could no longer hold back my tears of repressed sorrow and grief. I held them in for so long for they only riled my partner into anger and my goal was to keep harmony in my home at all costs. Alas they poured out of me like a waterfall. Four days of uncontrollable crying. Needless to say this did not bring harmony to my home. My partner was livid with me. He called several mental institutions to have me committed and prove me an unfit parent. This only made me cry more for I was once again afraid. The burden of his raging emotions and all my childrens innocent fears weighed me down and I could no longer figure out whose pain was whose. Had I known then that I was an empath I may of handled this situation differently. I know I would of handled it with a stronger conviction.. A reminder to us all to keep doing our spiritual practices, our energy work and as an empath stay grounded and centered. As far as calling our days of sadness or feelings of rejection or abandonment set backs? They are merely the stirrings, the necessary means to activate those dark niches ad hopefully release them completely this time. They are most definitely a means to move forward with a more radiant Light. |
Sharing my own experiences in hopes some may sync with your needs and lessons. The hope of this Wise Woman is to remind you to stay connected with the Divine spark within.. Welcome to my beautiful Universe ~ Diana Gulas Self educated in the holistic ways of our ancestors and the Creators offerings.
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